My daughter is having a tough time at school at the moment. Mostly at school. I wrote about it recently: Peace in Patterns?
This morning I received an email from my daughter's kindergarten teacher:
Just wanted to let you know how much (Dear Daughter) has been in my thoughts this week. I know she is going through a lot of anxiety and you must be too! If you want to talk, let me know.
Also, I am attaching a website for you to look at. I am not an expert, but I think that many of (DD's) behaviors fit the profile of selective mutism. I thought you might want to look at it. I am always an advocate for too much information rather than not enough.
(Signed DD's teacher)
She included this link.
I was floored. Not only did this "diagnosis" basically describe my daughter to a T, but it also described ME! Well! I'm floored. I immediately told dear hubby about it, and sent him the link. Basically, in a nutshell, it describes a child who, in certain situations, becomes so anxious, he/she literally cannot speak. The fear of the situation is all consuming. That's us. That's US! I dealt with that fear all the way through school, including college. And now it's affecting her, too. Wow.
I encourage anyone interested to go to the link above. It's a lot to read, but it's fascinating. And being one who is totally intensely shy in certain situations, I especially appreciated the emphasized point that in treatment, the child is not to be forced to speak! The emphasis is on making the child feel comfortable and understood. It emphasized that parents and teachers should support the child in every situation, and praise him/her for what he/she is able to do, when the timing is right.
Yes, the treatment suggestions include therapy and maybe medicine, which I'm not crazy about, but I understand that it could be helpful in some ways.
Regardless, I am excited to know more about this "diagnosis" and to know what we can do to help DD manage her anxiety. If I can learn how to manage mine at the same time, double bonus. But I have created a mostly low-stress environment around myself, so my need is not acute.
But she's got years and years of scary school/other situations to face, so if we can make that less awful, well, let's do it.
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